tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post8896749429531148722..comments2023-10-31T06:06:59.528-04:00Comments on How to Be the Best Nanny : The Sleep Lady ShuffleBest Nanny Newsletterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06103799261254020125noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-967072923405970792010-05-02T20:01:45.468-04:002010-05-02T20:01:45.468-04:00Sounds like a good compromise between extreme meth...Sounds like a good compromise between extreme methods. I'll check it out from the library. Thanks for always providing such great resources.<br />MaryAnn Nanny in MichiganAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-84406646385607173362010-05-02T08:18:51.465-04:002010-05-02T08:18:51.465-04:00I think this program is very similar to Feber stru...I think this program is very similar to Feber structure in that it takes a lot of time. <br />Parents need 3 weeks of uninterrupted bedtimes and napping routines to start the program and that can feel like a year to tired parents and infants. If a parent has the time amd patience great, but most of us work for working parents who are exhausted already when they return home in the evening. I prefer gentle methods. I understand crying it out but after 5 jobs of parents rocking and feeding their babies to sleep that's become what I am comfortable doing.<br />Professional Nanny<br />Claudia De Luca<br />Indianapolis INAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-8368804482845808142010-05-01T15:50:08.390-04:002010-05-01T15:50:08.390-04:00Really great series! I agree with your nanny newsl...Really great series! I agree with your nanny newsletter issue that MOST nannies will not be in charge of teaching parents how to train kids to sleep. I have been a nanny forever (2 decades +) and I always leave long before bed time. It's in the parents control. I simply try to be consistent in their methods of putting the children down for naps. I understand there may be a nanny or 2 in this whole country hired to help with sleep issues I just have never met them or even heard of them in America. <br /><br />When absolutely no sleep method is used (like mom sleeps with kids some nights, not others, then runs in 5 times a night to settle them, then I do created structure for my nap time. But I would never impose strict methods for a family that us super mellow and comforting to the kids. Not right to let kids cry in bed (even if you beleive in it) if the parents rock a kid to sleep. So follow their rules than be gentle implimenting your own. <br /><br />Career Nanny Ilene Huber<br />Atherton, CaliforniaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-81240347832928475002010-05-01T12:15:45.998-04:002010-05-01T12:15:45.998-04:00"...directs parents to follow their instincts..."...directs parents to follow their instincts about what will work best for their child."<br /><br />I like that sentence! I still think it's crazy to raise a baby with a book! Instincts people insticnts!<br /><br />Reyna H NY NYAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-69557480476291737112010-05-01T10:58:01.801-04:002010-05-01T10:58:01.801-04:00Just buy the workbook. It's cute!Just buy the workbook. It's cute!Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09183213131821912914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-48020418117941654622010-05-01T10:53:49.649-04:002010-05-01T10:53:49.649-04:00I agree with this book! I think it's super mor...I agree with this book! I think it's super more gentle than Ferber!I think attachment parenting is not even remotely fair to expect a nanny to do.<br /><br />This Sleep Lady program starts around 6 months which means the newborn does not have to cry it out. I absolutley agree up to t3 months shouldn't be made to cry. Can't spoil a newborn.<br /><br />The process is a decision of the parents. One parent focuses on soothing the child in the child's own bed. Like Ferber the parents don't pick the child up. That parent will begin by sitting right next to the crib or bed and using soothing techniques. Every 3 nights or so, the parent will move just a little bit farther away from the child’s bed, but remain in the room. Eventually, the shuffle is supposed to allow the parent to get out into the hallway and then the child goes to sleep on their own. <br /><br />This has nothing to do with the nanny. It is up to the parents to decide if they will do this or not and then inform the nanny to do the same at naptime. I think it's a great process!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11213382229701873907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-773373869463725905.post-21334990949220073112010-05-01T09:07:50.165-04:002010-05-01T09:07:50.165-04:00I am a newborn specialist but will stay with a fam...I am a newborn specialist but will stay with a family until the infant is 1 yr old. I like this book. I don't like Ferber or Babywise by Ezzo much at all. I have worked with dozens of newborns and infants and really like parenting a baby to sleep until 3 months old and predicting what they will need next at all ages. <br /><br />I agree with developing routines definitely. But I think the baby cries and you do what they want. We can't tell a baby it's time to sleep, they tell us. When they cry they are hungry or tired or uncomfortable and it's far more helpful to predict what will happen next to reduce crying, rather than making them cry it out.<br /><br />This book is good since it deals with parents with different philosophies. I do not agree with co sleeping but she goes ahead and respect those parents too.<br /><br />I have learned to follow the parents lead when it comes to parenting a kid to sleep vs letting them learn to settle themselves. But I would find it intolerable to allow a baby to cry more than about 5 minutes at a time if possible.<br />--MLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com