To continue the conversation about discipline we have posted an article about positive attention below.
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The Power of Positive Attention:
Positive attention reassures children, builds self-esteem, and creates a happier environment for the whole family.
1. Make positive attention specific: Tell [the] child exactly what he or she did that you liked.
2. Give positive attention right away: Give [the] child positive attention while good behavior is happening and right after good behavior occurs.
3. Use powerful rewards: Be sure that the reward is something the child likes. Sometimes, let [the] child choose one reward from a list of rewards. Rewards can be those things you already give [the] child no matter how they behave.
4. Avoid criticism: When [the] child learns something new he or she needs a lot of positive attention. First, talk about the good part of the behavior, and then tell him or her how to do better next time.
5. Carry out promises: When [caregivers] promise rewards for good behavior, they should carry out their promise.
6. Don't give in: [Caregivers] should not give in ‘just a little’ when the children don't obey all of the instructions. When [adults] give in sometimes, the children learn that they can get away with misbehaving sometimes.
7. Catch [the] child being good: [Caregivers] should watch for times their children are being good, and praise and reward them right away. If the children are rewarded often for good behavior, they learn that they don't have to misbehave to get attention.
8. Praise frequently: [Caregivers] should praise their children as often as possible. Spend time with your children. This allows you more opportunity to reinforce and praise them.
9. Use play to enhance positive communication: By sharing activities with children, parents can enhance communication. Activities should be child-directed rather than parent-directed. This involves parents commenting on the child’s behavior in a positive or neutral way during play. Avoid instructions and criticisms.
How do you encourage good behavior in children by using positive attention?