Respecting Professional Boundaries for Nannies and Parents
It is common for parents to direct nannies to limit television watching and not allow their kids to eat junk food. Then, when the parents are in charge, those well intentioned rules are broken and the kids are allowed to watch television while eating McDonald's.
Parents often arrive home tired from work and want to decompress and enjoy a peaceful evening with their family. At times that means they will pacify their whiny and crying children with the very privileges nannies have been asked to deny their charges.
It is frustrating for hard-working caregivers when their employers instruct them to no longer allow their children to use pacifiers, bottles, and diapers, yet the parents break their own rules. The parents' inability to follow through with no pacifier or diapers is simply validation of how difficult it is for nannies to accomplish the same instructions.
Just because the parents aren't always consistent with their own rules, doesn't mean they are not thrilled to hear of the success their nannies and children have had at napping, feeding, or potty training. Such successful reports prove to parents they made the right hiring decision.
Nannies aren't hired to scrutinize their employers when they cannot follow through with the instructions they ask their employees will follow. Although consistency between parents and caregivers is helpful in successfully training children, nannies have to look away and bite-their-lip sometimes because they are the hired help. Parents have the right to break rules because they are in charge of how to raise their children. Nannies must follow the parents' instructions because they are employees.
Nannies are hired to help support the parents, not the other way around. Professional nannies understand that it's difficult raising kids and aren't overly critical of parents.
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