Would You Hire a Complainer or Gossiper?
We all think our complaints are valid. But, if you want to keep your job you need to monitor what you say and who you complain to about your job. If you're a chronic complainer, you are sabotaging yourself and your success at work.
The first thing you need to do is get in touch with reality.
Reality is that listening to a chronic complainer is a bummer. We prefer to associate with people that make us feel good. Consider if you are always complaining about something, people will start to ignore you.
Leave your personal drama at home. If you complain to your boss about your personal problems consider the fact that they have enough problems of their own. They want a caregiver that can come enthusiastically to work and get their job done, without bringing their personal drama to work.
Reality is that nine-percent of Americans are unemployed. While you complain about your job, there are dozens of other people that would be more than happy to replace you, that would love to have your job, even for less money.
You work to make money, not to enjoy yourself. Work is never fun all the time. Everyone is asked to do things they don't want to do at work. If the parents loved doing all of your job duties, they wouldn't pay you to do it.
No one, and no job, is perfect. You can't expect anyone (or any job) to be perfect all the time.
You can only change yourself, not other people. There are many problems that you can't do anything about. You must learn to work around the things you can't change. For the things you can change, instead of whining and complaining about them, take responsibility for the problems you can solve.
Why would a parent continue to hire a caregiver who complains or gossips about them to their friends? Complaining about your boss to others is very dangerous. In the nanny and au pair industry if you are gossiping or complaining about your boss it's likely your boss will get wind-of-it. Imagine how embarrassing that would be for a mother or father? Why wouldn't they fire you?
Never, ever complain about parents in front of their children. Even worse than complaining about your boss to other caregivers and parents is complaining about the mother or father you work for in front of their children! Put yourself in the parent's shoes! You are hired to support the parents wishes, not hurt them in the eyes of their precious children!
Look for the positive side in every problem. Approach all problems with a sense of humor. If you can find the positives or the humor in a problem, you will greatly improve your prospects for success at work.
Know when it's time to move-on. If you are spending most of your time griping about your job, then it's time to find a new job. Be professional until the last day, and leave on good terms. Good references from your employers are important in finding new nanny jobs. We also recommend having a new job lined-up before leaving your current job.
Is complaining your pattern? Have you complained about other jobs too? It may be hard to admit but, do you complain too much? Maybe you are the one finding fault in others and it's not really just your boss's problem after all.
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Do you have examples of problems you have solved at work, in which you turned a negative into a positive?